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About Our Love, Relationship And Marriage Conference: Bring Me Back To Loving You

To the glory of God, every TWTW meet is special. I was going to say every new meet is better than the last, but I’ve decided to stick with the word ‘special’ because every meet has a purpose and God fulfills it so I can’t say one is better than the other.

From the theme ‘Bring Me Back To Loving You’, I knew the meet on the 24th of June was going to be very special for me.

We started with prayers (of course) and just filled the atmosphere with God’s presence. We then had a short interesting session where few members were to share why they had come. Tolu knew names so some of us couldn’t hide. 😒

Our Tolu in front..
Our Tolu in front..

After that we had an amazing worship session and every song was a message! Every song was a call to action and prayer for me. After that we had an amazing sister from Benin who shared her testimony. My God, she had been through rape, childbirth, depression, attempted suicide, but somehow, God kept her through it all…Her mess had become an inspiring message.

After that was the panel session with the two invited couples. This was a very ‘real’ time as they told us about different aspects of courtship/marriage; how men love (not like) sex and how women love (not like) attention and care.

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Our couples
Our couples


I’ve shared all of this in order to do a ‘report-like’ article, but this is where I’m really going- the very last session with Frances.

God had woken me up with ‘Return to your first love’ few days before the program, even though Frances hadn’t spilled what the theme was really about. I just knee that for me, it wasn’t about romance or even courtship, it was about really going back to God, my first love.

No, I hadn’t lost my salvation. I still loved Jesus and adored Him more than anyone else.
But as I sat during that session, I knew the things that God missed about our relationship. It all started to play in my head-

How I woke everyday at 4/5am to spend sweet time with God and just loved reading His word for hours! Classes started 8 or 10 am and I’ll be with God for 2-3 hours straight, not wanting to leave.
Now, I have to use alarm and I often snooze it too.

How did I get here?

As she talked and apologized to God, as she spilled her own beans, I knew that God was showing each of us our shortcomings. He was playing it all in our heads, how we begun to seek things before Him. How His gifts became bigger than His presence. How his promises and ‘work’ for the kingdom had taken His place in our hearts.

Oh, I cried bitter tears knowing that I’d broken God’s heart. It realization that God even missed the things we used to do hit me. Such an awesome God, loving and longing for His children?
What sort of love is that sef?

But we repented. How can we not?

Personally, I’ve taken note of the things I used to do when I first fell in love with God and hope to do even more now. Not as a religion, but as worship and as reference of how good He’s been.

You may read this post for context of the things I did before.

We left the meet, heart surrendered and promises made to retrace our steps, to get to where God and God alone is our satisfaction.

And we’re grateful that He has done it, He has brought us back to loving Him. Amen.

And what’s the topic of this whole article about?
What’s your one thing?

Here’s mine:
One thing I have asked of the Lord , and that I will seek: That I may dwell in the house of the Lord [in His presence] all the days of my life, To gaze upon the beauty [the delightful loveliness and majestic grandeur] of the Lord And to meditate in His temple.


I began to laugh in the spirit when Frances used that verse to buttress her point. Why? Because I had read the same verse before I stepped out to go for the meet. It’s my favorite verse in the whole world and it’s written in front of my journal.

I knew then that God had really planned it all.

He is my ONE THING.
Here are few of our pictures after the program. ❤




So its been almost a week since our last meet.. We didn't mean to go AWOL but we have been recuperating. Lol. From what you may ask? You see this picture? We had to give reminders for it to be snapped.. The word had everyone thinking. Tomorrow we shall share words from sisters who were there and also of course make it evergreen on the blog with a post. We are grateful for you, you and you. Everyone of you amazing ones who make up the women at the well. To our invited guest couples.. God bless you!! Lots of love TWTW

Our first TWTW baby
Our first TWTW baby

Watch videos of the programme (especially of the prayer sessions) on Facebook here

About the writer

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Bolaji is  God lover and kingdom worker who is passionate about all things God and her nation Nigeria.

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Minimeet with Aunty SALT!

It doesn’t get better than the Saturday we had with Aunty Salt on 13th May 2017. It was refreshing, on all levels. All shades of amazeballs.

The mini-meet was slated for 10am in Brown’s cafe and restaurant, off Adeola Odeku in VI Lagos.

Aunty Salt had earlier announced that there would be gifts for the first seven arrivals. She was there before any of us. And yes, she delivered on that promise. Each of the “early birds” got free copies of “The Shack” by WM. Paul Young.

She did not stop there, our Naomi went ahead to post pictures of the first three Ruths to arrive on her IG page. Talk about celebrating even the little acts of excellence.

We started with a prayer of thanksgiving while some more ladies joined us. As we had breakfast, Aunty Salt started by thanking us for honouring her invitation to host us. Huh? Mrs Bola Salt Essien had lost her younger sister AburoChild Mrs Shola “Sholly” Gaska nee Adefolalu barely five months ago in yet to be established, excruciatingly painful circumstances. Her walk of faith at this time is an inspiration to a lot of us in TWTW. So you can imagine her now thanking us  for collectively being her “hook” and helping her deal with here loss as she finds purpose from her pain. No words. Just no words.

One thing was clear from the word go, a fact Aunty Salt put in words several times. She had not called us together to waste our time. She came prepared to give, to pour of  the Water God had given her on and in us. She was there to be as open as possible so we could learn.

Some parts, I would quote her verbatim. Other times, I would write as I understood. As you join me, I pray the reason for this meet would be actualized in your life as well, just as if you were physically present.

First Words

There is a difference between being ready for marriage and getting ready for the wedding. As Christians, God expects us to do marriage different from the world. And until we are ready to do it the way God wants, He sees us as not ready for marriage. This is one reason a lot of  Christians are still unmarried. God loves us too much to allow us mess up our lives and that of His other sons and daughters in the name of marriage. He keeps us out to groom us for Marriage His Way.


To build anything, the foundation is critical, for if the foundation be faulty, even the righteous might become helpless.

First, know yourself in God before thinking marriage.

Then respectfully develop yourself. Build yourself into the kind of spouse you would like.

This starts with the reason for entering a relationship with a particular young man or woman. What is the love predicated upon? Looks, Money, Connection, Talent, Charisma, Fear of God, Humility, etc. Good as all these are, they form a shaky foundation at best to build something as important as marriage. This is because these traits are transient. A love based on any would die when the underlying factor fades away or changes. As a Christian, we should love just because…unconditionally, just like God did for us. Romans 5:8. The best time to practise this is in the single and unmarried state. Showing love to people all around us and loving up on our very first husband- Jesus Christ.

Keep the marriage bed undefiled. Pre-marital sex is still  a Sin that attracts punishment. God will forgive, but the individuals will pay. Whatsoever a man Soweth, that he shall reap.

Also, communication is very key. Do not leave room for assumptions.

Right from dating and courtship, discus issues and be open to each other.

Never believe otherwise, marriage is good and sex (In marriage) is beautiful.

Four truths to know before getting married.

  1. There is no ready made soul mate in terms of personality and character. Two dissimilar people based on their unconditional love for each other go through the process of becoming soul mates. What matters most is a person with a teachable spirit.

  2. Stay in your lane, your time will come. Stay hungry for where you want to be, but let that not in any way diminish your contentment with what you have/ where you are at the present.

  3. Never compare your man or your relationship with any one else’s. Every relationship has its own dynamics. Do not be the foolish woman that destroys her home with her own hands.

  4. Sex in marriage is a big deal. It has the ability to set the tone of a lot of things for a couple, especially men.

You know like a good teacher, Aunty Salt started from lighter issues before delving into the weightier ones.

Existing or Living.

Aunty Salt asked us a question: “Think about your life right now; are you living or existing?”

To help us answer the question  better, she provided us guidelines

Existing is full of doing, activities and things. There is a sense of shallowness and dissatisfaction. Nothing you do can ever be enough. It focuses on the individual and his efforts.

Living is full of being. It involves people. It is about pleasing God, being a tool in His hands to save souls, touch lives and benefit somebody else. We are made by God to “be”, not just to “do” hence the term “human beings” instead of “human doings”. When we become in line with God’s purpose then can our doings also please Him and be rewarded.

Matthew 5: 44-46: “Therefore be ye also ready: for in such an hour as ye think not the Son of man cometh. [45] Who then is a faithful and wise servant, whom his lord hath made ruler over his household, to give them meat in due season? [46] Blessed is that servant, whom his lord when he cometh shall find so doing.” ( emphasis mine).

Caution: Let charity begin at home. Whatever grace we exhibit and distribute outside, our household should be the first beneficiaries of that grace and even greater graces.

The conclusion of the whole matter.

Eternal life is the ultimate of our entire existence. Whatever else we do, even as we fulfil purpose, we must never lose focus of heaven. No matter the challenges and temptations, never accept / give in to the lie of the enemy that we are merely human. No. No. Nay. We are not only human. In fact, we are not human at all. We are spirit beings in human flesh as a prerequisite to exist in this realm.

How is it possible to live heavenly conscious you may ask? Do not make Jesus Christ number one in your life. Because that would mean that after you give Him priority as number one, you can still go and attend to other numbers on your list as if He never existed. Instead of making Him number one or  any other number, make Christ the centre of your life. Let every other aspect of your life draw from Him as the constant. Live as if the trumpet would sound that very second.

Let the difference between you and the world be visible, just like that between darkness and light.

Item Sevens.

Then it was time for lunch. There was a slight change in timing due to a family outing our Aunty Salt had.  Somehow, lunch was not ready at the rescheduled time and girls were already hungry. Lol. So we descended back on the breakfast layout and concluded the judgement on the sandwiches and cakes. Shopping at the Salt Market where we bought without money also continued.

At around this time, Aunty Salt left us for her family engagement. Of course not without very strict instructions that we do adequate justice to the food prepared.😂😂

Finally, the 3 course meal was ready, buffet style.😁😁

We dug into the sumptuous lunch while feeding on the Living Bread and drinking from The Living  Well, so the heading Items Sevens is deliberate.

Frances shared on Authentic Christianity, which is not in church attendance or being fluent in  christianese, rather of following the example of Christ. It is desiring God above any gift we could ever get from him or desire. A Christianity where Christ is not the utmost desire, but the only desire. Where we crave God, just for Himself, and cherish His fellowship, simply because He is. The gift must never come before the giver, else it becomes an idol.

Tioluwanimi shared on knowing God on a personal level. Such that when you call God a name, it is not from a posse of cliches, rather it is from a place of knowing God in that capacity.  Authentic Christianity is learning what God would have us learn in every situation, allowing the challenge to train us and work out patience so we can be a help to someone else who would pass through that same road in the future and need encouragement from us.

As an authentic Christianity, learn how to own up to your mistakes when you fail, confess them to God, and be sure to shut the devil down when he tries to accuse you. She recommended “Battle Field of the mind” by Joyce Meyer and “Crash the ChatterBox” by Steven Furtick.

The Preacher’s Kid added that for us to be authentic Christians, our eyes must be firmly fixed on Jesus Christ and not on any man. Christ is the standard, and only him is the author and finisher of our faith.

Toni  (Oluwatea) wrapped it up by encouraging us to be our brothers keeper. We should encourage a wounded soldier or a Christian that stumbled instead of casting him aside with harsh criticism, by so doing, we would all grow.

Final words.

Do not wait till everything is available. Start that big dream in a small way. Impact a life, even if it is just a single person.

Do not be afraid to make mistakes, just remember to move on from it. A mistake is just an event. Do not let it define your life.

Celebrate little victories. Celebrate your self. Celebrate each other

As expected, we wrapped up with a wonderful time of prayer- short yet inspired, that our testimony of new birth would never be a past tense. May  we never see our Christianity as been there, done that.

Special thanks to our special hostess Bose and Mr Jide (that helped us with the photographs) both of Browns Cafe and Restaurant.

Christian, Tobi and the entire Team of Sweet Kiwi Frozen Yoghurt that delivered our surprise promptly despite the short notice, even when we had to change the delivery time to fit into the new schedule.

If you missed this meet, don’t worry, God’s got you. Our next full meet come up in June 2017, that’s next month. Follow the blog and like our Facebook page for full details as soon as they are released.

Stay blessed.

The Preacher’s K

You’re Invited To TWTW May Mini-Meet With Aunty Salt!

Hello sisters!

We are so excited about this!

Remember when we had our March meet with three amazing Naomis? (Read all about it HERE)

It turns out that that was not the last time for us to sit in with Naomis to glean wisdom from them. (Don’t know who a Naomi is? See HERE).

On May 13th 2017 we will be having another TWTW Mini-meet with two Noamis.

It is a mini-meet because it will basically be a time-out with our very amazing Aunty Salt Essien-Nelson.

Our beautiful Aunty Salt
Our beautiful Aunty Salt

Aunty Salt is practically our TWTW mummy and has been one of our God-sent back bone.

She and Mrs Bridget Elesin (God willing) will be sitting in with us and dishing out God-given wisdom in any area of life you need wisdom on.

If you were at March meet then you know that even after hours of listening to our Noamis, we still had lots of questions we couldn’t dispense with because of time.

Now, come May 13th 2017 you get to come with all your questions and just drink from the well of wisdom our Noamis carry.


We need confirmations by April 30th. So if this wise sister who wants to drink from our Noamis wisdom is you, send a mail confirming your attendance to

Venue and time details will only be sent to those who confirm.

Any confirmations after April 30th won’t be counted in so please send those emails ASAP.

See you on May 13th sister!


Pictures form our first meet of the year. #thewomenatthewell #christianladies #Naomisandruths #March2017

Lots of Love,

The Women At The Well

About Our Last Meet: The Gap Between Naomis And Ruths Has Been Bridged!

The moment Frances announced the Theme for our first quarter Meet as “Bridging The Gap Between Naomis And Ruths”, I just knew I had to be there.


Reason is, I had lots of hard-nut questions on my mind and I knew only women who have walked this path can give me godly counsel and share lessons from their experiences… I just could not see myself missing out on this golden opportunity to ask real time Naomis these hard-nut questions that keep me awake at night. Plus the Meet was doubling as the official launch of our first collection of Bible Study, which is more than a dream come true for me. I was part of the Media Team that compiled and edited the Studies, which was like literally giving birth to me, so I couldn’t also afford to miss my first baby’s dedication.


Did I mention that I haven’t been able to attend any TWTW live meet since I relocated to Abuja last June? I more than missed real-time fellowship with my TWTW sisters. I missed the Spiritual and physical refreshments/rejuvenation that came with these Meets, so like Daniel, I purposed in my heart that I wouldn’t let nothing and no one prevent me from attending this Meet. QED.


I purposed in my heart and God made it happen. Would you believe that God used someone to pay for my roundtrip tickets to and from Lagos? That’s definitely a #TestimonyArising!!!



My Top Lessons From Our Last Meet


I came thirsty and eager to drink from the Well to my heart’s satisfaction and I was not disappointed. The program started with Frances leading us in heartfelt prayers for a fresh dedication of our hearts to God.



Then we had our sisters Aramide, IfyHalim, AmakaMedia and Frances share excerpts from our Bible Study Collection which consists of four books:
– The List (For A Future Husband)
– Becoming God’s Own Kind Of Woman
– Marriage God’s Way
– The Character Of A Godly Woman


Next, our married sisters Emmanuela Tijani and Damilola Busari, who are 6 months and 3 months in marriage respectively, share with us some lessons they have learned from marriage so far.

The one thing that stood out for me as both of them shared their experiences individually is that – “No matter how ready we think we are for marriage, when we get there, we’ll realize that we got a lot more to learn. As a matter of fact, marriage tests all the lessons you’ve accumulated on marriage as a single. But the good news is God is ever near to walk you through and help you succeed in the institution of marriage. So long as you are yielded to Him to help you”


Pastor Ugo Fidel Onwuraokoye, one of our Naomis, took the event tempo multiple notches higher as she spoke to us on the importance of having a mentor. She spoke to us as a mother speaks with her beloved children, sharing lessons from her very terrible childhood/teenage years which was filled with hatred and bitterness and how God saved her from a life of worthless living. This is my first time meeting or hearing this great woman of God speak and I was captivated by her passion to see that the younger generation does not get lost as she was before God saved her and turned her messed up life into a message and testimony to help the upcoming generation. One key thing I picked from her pep talk is this – “No matter how ugly your situation is. No matter how messed up your past may seem. God can work it all out to give you a glorious destiny, if only you let Him work out His purpose in you irrespective of the ugly situations. All it takes is a completely yielded and obedient heart.”

With Pastor Ugo
With Pastor Ugo


Up next was the long-awaited Talk-show with our Naomis which was anchored by the Anoke sisters – Success (aka dPreachersKid) and Distinguished (moi).

Rookie Ruth came prepared with lots of questions ranging from how to recognize her Naomi, to what to do till her Boaz finds her, to how much of what goes on in her home when she’s married to Boaz should she let Naomi in on, to acceptable/unacceptable sexual positions for Christian couples, to what to do if Boaz wants sex during a fast, to how to manage her finances, to how to balance her career, home-front, relationship with God and several other demands without burning out, etc. Lots of deep questions. And our seasoned Naomis:

– Pastor Ugo Fidel Onwuraokoye, (married for about 16 years), is the President of Tamar Rescue Foundation, an NGO focused on advocacy and education against sexual abuse and rape.


She also runs a ministry called Total Woman International, a ministry for women of all classes for impartation of Grace for successful womanhood and deep study of the word of God.

– Pastor Alayode Omotunde, (married for about 14 years), is a financial professional with over 15 years work experience in the industry. She also oversees the Children Ministry of The Elevation Church, Mainland, Lagos.


– Mrs. Bola Essien Nelson (Aunty Salt), (married for about 24 years), is a world changer who seasons lives and her environment with words using her blog platform and books. She is the beautiful heart and voice behind SaltTalks and She is also a monthly guest writer on

These 3 wise women held nothing back in answering the numerous questions that Ruth had. They shared freely from their personal experiences, relationship with God, lessons from counselling others, etc. There was raw love and pure passion in the way our Naomis spoke to us. One of our Naomis, Pastor Alayode, came from the office and was supposed to go back there by 2pm but she put her work on hold and stayed with us 2 extra hours just so she’ll answer our numerous questions!




And when we asked for the secret to building capacity so we’ll also turn out to be great Naomis like them, I picked this central truth from all their responses – “Capacity to be the woman God has created us to become happens overtime, it is never instantaneous. You build capacity with your daily activities: attending midweek services is building capacity; attending events and seminars like your TWTW Meets, is building capacity; going to school is building capacity; learning a skill is building capacity; the books you read for your personal development is building capacity; the type of association you keep to help you BECOME is building capacity; the time you spend in your closet communicating with God and digging into His word, is building capacity. There is no one secret for building capacity, it is a cumulation of all you do to help you BECOME who you have been created by God to be.”


Two other key things I also learned from our Naomis are:
– A woman who desires to BECOME all God has created her to be CANNOT joke with her prayer life. She must learn and be committed to doing battle on her knees. She must learn to pray about anything and everything. She must learn to let the Holy Spirit guide her every decision and step.


– The bridge between Naomis and Ruths goes both ways – as we come to our Naomis for wisdom and guidance, they draw strength from our belief in them and their God-given purpose. In Aunty Salt’s words: “Dear Ruths, know this, as you drink, you are watering too”

Our Collection of Bible Study and Frances Okoro’s new book – “Prayers For Your Future Husband” (Spirit-Led Prayers For The One Whose Name You Don’t Know) were officially launched after the Talk-show. Those who had pre-ordered took their copies and those who didn’t, bought their copies at the spot. (You can get yours too or get for a loved one, e-Copies and hardcopies available).

All details on our book will be out in a post this week
All details on our book will be out in a post this week

Closing prayers were said by our Naomis who showered us with Blessing and heartfelt prayers to God to keep us on track and never let us make the mistakes they made.






Oh my! I am so glad I didn’t miss this Meet for anything in the world! My heart is full and my Spirit is refreshed!!! And as with all TWTW Meets, we took lots of pictures afterwards. And the hugs? Breathtaking!!!





This goes on record as one of the Best Days of my life in my little journey on earth.

Next TWTW Meet comes up in June and the bigger news is that is open to both males and females, singles and married. This is my early invite for you not to miss it.



Messages from the meet and videos wil be out on our Youtube channel in the course of the week.


Also watch out for details on how to get our book.

For every woman: lessons from rookie Ruth



This is a sneak peek from our upcoming book: the women at the well collection of Bible Studies.

The book includes four studies:

The list
Becoming God’s own kind of woman
Marriage God’s way
The character of a godly woman

Preorder from now till March 3rd and also get Frances’ new book titled “Prayers for your future husband” all for 2000naira only.

We are glad to announce that for everyone who preordered the women at the well  collection of Bible studies, your ecopy  of "prayers for your future husband" will be  sent to you on Saturday February 25th 2017. Yes! We are also mega glad to announce that the preorder deals have been reopened till March 3rd 2017,a day before we have our first meet for the year/book launch. We got mails asking for an extension and we have heeded. You get "Prayers for your future husband" (which costs 1000naira,either hardcopy or soft copy depending on which you prefer) and The women at the well collection of four Bible studies (which costs 2000naira)... You get both  books for 2000naira only with this preorder deal. Send an email to for payment details. Don't miss out on this again. This is a deall that shouldn't be missed. Two for the price of one. Purchase for a friend who will jump at you with kisses and tag a friend who needs this. Lots of love, The women at the well #christianbooks #marriageGodsway #thelist #becomingGodsownkindofwoman #thecharacterofagodlywoman #prayersforyourfuturehusband #christianauthor #singleladies #womeninministry

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There exists a general notion in today’s world that posits that a woman should “eat a man’s money”..
This notion have led even Christian ladies to delve into the realm of materialism.
Most women are in relationships they shouldn’t be in because of money.

But lets examine what Ruth did when she needed money. ..


The Virtue Of Diligence
The next attribute I noted as I studied Ruth was her diligence. In Ruth chapter 2, we see her
tell Naomi “Let me go out”.

She was willing to step out and work without waiting for her
big break. She stepped out into what she could do in the NOW. Also, letting go of pride, she went out to pick up scattered grain to feed herself and Naomi. Ruth could have decided to be
a prostitute instead of being hardworking. She was from Moab, no one knew her in Israel, but
she chose the hardworking way.

There’s always something God maybe showing us to do in a period. It may not be grand but it’s His direction to us.
How hardworking are we? It’s easy to credit ourselves that we are not lazy but how much are we willing to do as women? Would we say “No Lord, you promised me the nations” and then refuse the local place He asks us to step into?
Ruth was also very selfless. The little Ruth got, she shared with Naomi. There was a part in the story where Boaz invited her to eat, and after doing so, she kept some back for her mother-in-law. That just blew my mind. Her thoughtfulness… selflessness was of the highest

“So Ruth gathered barley there all day, and when she beat out the grain that evening, it
filled an entire basket.
She carried it back into town and showed it to her mother-in-law. Ruth also gave her the
roasted grain that was left over from her meal.”
Ruth 2:17&18

In Ruth giving leftovers to Naomi, I learnt something too. When God blesses us, do we keep the blessing all to ourselves, or do we give some out and bless others?
“What Do People See In Me?”

Another attribute I see in Ruth is that she was a virtuous woman.

In Ruth 3:11, Boaz mentioned that everyone in the town knew Ruth as a virtuous woman.
Before the virtuous woman was talked about in Proverbs 31, that term was used for Ruth.

“Now don’t worry about a thing, my daughter. I will do what is necessary, for everyone in
town knows you are a virtuous woman.”
Ruth 3:11, NLT

Ruth’s virtuous life was obvious for all to see – that’s a reminder that people are always
watching us and making their judgement about us in our absence.
What do people see in me? What do people in your sphere of influence say about you?
As women of God, what do we carry as we move about? What do people say when you pass
by – at work, in your neighbourhood, at church, your village etc.?

Let’s also notice that Boaz didn’t say Ruth was known for being pretty. This proves that a woman doesn’t have to be physically beautiful to get a man’s attention. It was Ruth’s hard work and commitment to her mother in law that impressed Boaz the most. And that’s how a foreigner married one of the best men in Bethlehem.
Character ladies. Let’s invest more in our characters than in our outward looks.

Ruth also shows us where to turn to and what to do when life hurts. Despite her losses, this young widow fixed her gaze on God and poured her energy into helping others. She was so obedient, meek and lowly in heart. I believe God spoke through Naomi to Ruth and she obeyed. There is nothing as pleasant as the Lord instructing you. No matter how hard it may
be, just obey because it will ALWAYS end in your favour. Ruth obeyed first and provision came after. Obey first and God will provide and take care of you.
I also see that God indeed orders our steps (Ruth 2:3). See how God ordered Ruth’s steps to
Boaz’s farm!
Also note that Ruth wasn’t even looking for a husband when the man came. How good is God?

“No good thing will God withhold from the upright”
Psalm 84:11

You know Ruth just wanted to glean grain, not knowing that God had her husband set there and had plans to make her an ancestor of Jesus. God does plan it all for our good even when we may not see it.
I really want to be like Ruth – loving, determined, virtuous, meek, obedient, hardworking,
gentle and selfless.
I hope you want to inculcate her attributes too.

Ps: Come March 4th, we as Ruths will be gleaning wisdom from Naomis at our first meet this year.

Theme: Bridging the gap between Naomis and Ruths.

Meet is free but you have to register.
Register here 

Don’t Miss The March 2017 TWTW Meet + 50 Percent Off Off Our New Book


Hi sisters!

Like we mentioned yesterday, our founder Frances just released her new book “Prayers for your future husband”.

The book is has not officially been released yet and so she wants to give another chance to the ladies who have been reaching us about missing out on the preorder deal we previously sent out.

“Prayers for your future husband” main book is accompanied by the “21 Days prayers for your future husband challenge ebook”.

The book alone costs 1000 Naira.

The women at the well collection of Bible studies which will be released at our March meet comprises of four Bible studies every woman should desire to dig into.

Every woman wants to become something. When I was younger I wanted to become a Lawyer. I am one now but is that all? I found out that there is something higher that I have to become and that is "God's own kind of woman". What kind of woman did He intend for me to become? Based on my gifts, talents and His Spirit in me? I found this out as I burrowed deeper into Him. I am a Deborah kind of woman. My work in Him is one of the kind Debbie did in those days. But then even though we want to find out the kind of women we are in God, we don't start from there. We start from knowing Him. And in knowing Him we know us. We know who we are. We shouldn't be worried about finding our purpose and knowing what the word says about us.. just burrow deeper into God. As you go deeper in intimacy with Him, when the time comes for Him to give you instructions on what to do for Him, he will tell you. But never place DOING above WALK WITH HIM. Get your fellowship with God straightened out and as you do, finding who you are in the word wont be an issue. P:S: Becoming God's own kind of woman is a study in our upcoming book to be released in February 2017. Pre-order your copy on or before January 31st 2017 and you also get  @frances_okoro new book "Prayers for your future husband (Spirit led prayers for the one whose name you dont know) as a FREE GIFT (the ebook). Pre-order price is 1500 Naira. Send a mail to to get on this awesome deal. Feel free to tag a lady you know who will bless you for this info. #christianbook #books #christianwoman #womenministries #thewomenatthewell


-The list
-Becoming God’s own kind of woman
-Marriage God’s way
-The character of a godly woman

These are all studies that have wrecked us and made us dig deeper into God.
This collection of Bible study is for every woman who wants to step out of the world’s rut into God’s way of knowing who she is.

TWTW collection of Bible study costs 2000Naira.

BUT Here’s the great news!

We are reopening another preorder deal for everyone who orders and pays for these books on or before March 3rd 2017.

Cost: 2000Naira.

The price of one for the gift of three.

You get:

-The women at the well collection of Bible study

-Prayers for your future husband (either the hard copy or soft copy)

-21 days prayers for your future husband challenge eBook.

If you missed the first deal then this is specifically meant for you.

Don’t miss out on this one too.

Mail to get account details for your payment and feel free to not just purchase for yourself but also for a lady you love who needs this.


Also…..don’t miss out on our next meet.

Please don’t.
Please do yourself a favour and don’t.

There’s too much wisdom at stake for you to let slip through your fingers like that.


Theme: Bridging the gap between Naomis and Ruths

Date: March 4th 2017

Fee: FREE but you have to register.
Register for free Here

We are excited for all in store in this season.

Don’t be left behind sis.

Mail us for your books.

And share this with a sister who will bless you for this!

Lots of love,
The women at the well

You’re invited to Bridging The Gap Between Naomis And Ruths (TWTW March 2017 Meet)

Join “The Women At The Well” For Her March 2017 Meet


This March, Join The Women At The Well March As We Bridge The Gap Between Naomis And Ruths!

Yes sisters!

Our very first meet for the year is here!

There are different shades of emotions running through me right now, foremost of which is “Lord, come help us!”

I mean this meet doubles as our FIRST BOOK LAUNCH!



“Bridging the gap between Naomis and Ruths”.

Based on the relationship between Ruth and Naomi in the Bible, we would be bridging the gap between modern day Naomis and Ruths.

Our Naomis will be available to mentor us on everything we should know as young women who desire to live for Christ Jesus in today’s world.

From marriage, to business, to career goals, to finances, to emotional intelligence..EVERYTHING CONCERNING US AS WOMEN will be shared with us.


Our Naomis:

Salt for PPSC

Mrs Bola Salt Essien-Nelson (Our TWTW Aunty, the amazing woman who salts lives) 



Mrs Alayode Omotunde (From Elevation Church, Lagos Mainland).


Pastor Ugo Fidel Onwura-Okoye

Date: Saturday March 4th 2017















Light house international Christian centre, Etisalat building, Opposite WAEC office, Ogba,Lagos


Date is Saturday March 4th 2017

The event is FREE but we need you to register.

Register here

We hope to see you all soon!

Do invite a lady you love.. no one should miss this.


Lots of Love,

The Women At The Well


New here?

We love you!

The Women at the well is a Christian ladies ministry based in Lagos.

We are committed to raising women filled with Jesus and we do this through our meets held at every quarter of the year, along with our online mentoring platform for all women.

We are the women at the well, imperfect, broken but available to the use of our Lord Jesus Christ. So, we invite you to drink from here – from Jesus – the well that never runs dry.

Jesus answered her, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again. But whoever drinks the water that I give him will never be thirsty again. But the water that I give him will become in him a spring of water [satisfying his thirst for God] welling up [continually flowing, bubbling within him] to eternal life.”

-John 4: 13-14

To know more about us, read here


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