Jesus’ Kind Of Husband For You


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This is the introduction to “The List”.


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Generations of single ladies like you and I have come and gone.

Even generations of wives have walked the face of the Earth.

And as different as their lives were, one common thing they shared is The List; the almighty list for a future husband.

While some ladies had godly parents who taught them to seek solid Christian qualities, others weren’t as fortunate. They grew up with the adjectives “Tall, Dark and Handsome” (TDH) feeding their imaginations and swirling inside their heads; this includes the God-fearing Christians among them.

Don’t get us wrong, TDH is not entirely bad, after all, who doesn’t like shiny things? But sadly, TDH alone can’t sustain a marriage that is meant to last till “death do us part”. Hence, the question: What exactly should a list for a husband entail?

Now, there are various attributes you can think of and include to your list, but why stress when you already have the best template there is? One that can be specifically tailored to your needs.

If you want a king, you can have David, Solomon or King Ahasuerus (Esther’s husband).

If you want a wise man, you can choose between King Solomon, Daniel, Paul, Abraham and Jacob.

If you want a father, brother, friend and husband, there is Mary’s husband, Joseph.

If you want your husband to pant after your love, pick Abraham, Isaac or Jacob.

If you want a strong man, Joshua or Caleb would make a great match.

The Bible contains everything you need to live a successful life, including qualities of a suitable suitor. From Genesis down to Revelations, it’s all there in the Word. So, with that said, go ahead and make your list with the Bible’s range of attributes to choose from. And as you study the various husbands in the Word, remember that the greatest husband of all times is and will always be Jesus.

For your Maker is your husband — the LORD Almighty is his name — the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth.”

Isaiah 54:5, NIV

It is Jesus who paid the ultimate price to make us His own. Our marriage with Him will endure till eternity and if we want earthly marriages that will stand the test of time, we need to know what attributes matter to Jesus and how they can also be seen in our husbands.

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.

He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault.”

Ephesians 5:25-27, NLT

From the above passage, we can clearly see what Jesus wants for us His daughters:

#1. Husbands who love their wives

Not as the world loves with mere material things but as Jesus loves, laying down His life to keep His bride safe and His for eternity. This is the way of a godly husband. You can learn more about Christ’s love in 1st Corinthians 13.

#2. Husbands who keep their wives holy

A man Jesus would choose for his bride would be able and willing to keep her holy before God. He would shy away from desecrating her body with sexual sin, and would want to present her to God without blemish.

#3. Husbands who wash their brides with the water of the word

Jesus’ choice for his bride would be a man who is able to teach his wife the Word of God, and mould her in the process. He doesn’t just feed her body and mind but also her spirit which is most important.

Jesus does all of the above, and that is why the Word says “Husbands love your wives as Jesus loves the Church”. If a man cannot love you the way Jesus posits, then there is something wrong with the standards you are holding him up to.

This book – “The List for a Future Husband” cannot tell you everything you should look for in a man, but it promises to guide you in writing your very own list with the following Bible heroes’ stories:

  1. . Abraham

  2. . Isaac

  3. . Joseph

  4. . Boaz

  5. . Jacob

  6. . David

  7. . Lapidoth

  8. . Zachariah

  9. . Hosea

  10. . The Proverbs 31 Man

We encourage you to pick up the Bible and study these great men. In the process, prayerfully base your list on the attributes that God would want His special man for you to have.

We pray that as you do, your mind is renewed, your heart is enlightened and your eyes are open to see as God sees. We pray for more women to come into God’s plan and heart as regards marriage and what He desires in mates for them. We pray that the standards we hold our to-be-suitors to are actually standards that have their bases in Jesus.

Jesus loves you, and He deeply wants you to settle with a godly husband on this side of heaven, even more than you desire that for yourself.

Dear Sister in Christ, let His word show you just how true this is.

The Women At The Well,

Lagos Nigeria

Posted on: March 25, 2017, by :
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