How Far is too Far???
HOW FAR IS TOO FAR? Sneak Peek Into The TWTW Bible Study Collection Vol. 2
Setting boundaries and knowing how far is too far, is one of the biggest challenges for Christian intending couples. Hence, in today’s sneak peek into The TWTW Bible Study Collection Vol. 2, we share practical steps on HOW TO SET BOUNDARIES WITH THE ONE YOU LOVE during courtship.
As usual, we enjoin you to read, learn, share and invite your sister-girlfriends to do same too.
How To Set Practical Boundaries With The One You Love
Courtship is a period where an intending couple gets to know each other and plan for the marital life ahead of them. It’s the period of engagement after your future husband has asked for your hand in marriage and you have answered positively.
It’s a time one should spend wisely; a period of foundation building for your marriage. It’s a very important period in the relationship, a delicate season. This is why purity in courtship is needed. We need to set practical boundaries so that we don’t cross the ‘line’.
A Courtship that starts out right with two godly lovers, can go awry. I’m sure we might have even witnessed it once or twice, and we question what went wrong. Well, one thing that turns love to lust is sexual immorality.
Our churches preach no sex until marriage. Even NGOs also do that these days. But the truth is, virginity and purity are not the same. As much as staying a virgin is important, what matters more to God is purity, the state of the heart. Many young Christians have done everything except the actual act of sexual ‘penetration’. However, God expects more from His children
“For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.” – Matthew 15:19, NKJV.
Out of the heart… that’s where purity or sin starts. No wonder the Bible tells us to guard our hearts. Everything starts there. We all have ‘gates’ to the heart, and they are our eyes, our ears and our skin. Anything that gets through these gets into the heart. What movies do we watch? What books do we read? What conversations do we have? What songs do we listen to?
Ephesians 5:3 warns, “Don’t allow love to turn into lust, setting off a downhill slide into sexual promiscuity, filthy practices, or bullying greed.” MSG.
Some people condemn pornography, but still go ahead and laugh at lewd jokes. You watch suggestive videos. Listen to music with ‘funny’ lyrics. It’s a gradual path to hardening your heart and desensitizing it. The line between good and evil gradually becomes blurred. I know it gets more difficult these days because the world is trying to move us over and almost every popular movie has a sex scene. However, if we want to keep our purity, there are some things we must be prepared to let go of.
The question of to kiss or not to kiss, is often asked among believers. One of the ways to interpret the kissing dilemma is this: You will never get enough. I doubt if it’s possible to stand feet apart and only the lips touch. Before you know it, you start moving closer. It then becomes impossible to kiss and just leave your arms idle, they must proceed to touch. You cross one line after the other, till you discover you’ve gone the whole 9 yards. With God, it’s more than just the physical act. As far as God is concerned, a lustful look or thought is as good as going all the way.
Also, it is common knowledge that men are moved by what they see. Dear sister, as much as he is trying to exercise self-control and live a life that’s pleasing to God, please help him. Don’t dress provocatively. Yes we know he speaks in tongues and he loves the Lord, but please also help him guard the gates to his heart. His eye gate especially. You’re fearfully and wonderfully made. Let God be glorified in your dressing, modesty and moderation are important.
We are children of God, children of the light and nothing in our lives and courtship should question our stand in God.
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With this collection of study, we went full circle into the woman’s life – from her marriage, to her home and to her calling. It contains three (3) spirit-filled studies we have delved into in our ministry’s online group in the past one year.
1. Becoming Homemakers
2. All Things Courtship And Marriage
3. Women Arising
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